All About
Couples Therapy
Heart is sea
Language is shore
Whatever sea includes
Will hit the shore
-Rumi
Couples Therapy
We all long for love, yet expressing it can feel vulnerable. We may fear being hurt if things don’t work out, struggle to receive love, or question whether we are truly worthy of it. Relationships are one of our greatest sources of connection, yet most of us were never taught how to communicate in a way that fosters closeness and understanding. Couples therapy offers a space to strengthen communication, soften defenses, and cultivate deeper intimacy.
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My approach integrates the wisdom of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Somatic Therapy, Relational Therapy, Nonviolent Communication, and Compassion-Based Mindfulness to help partners move beyond cycles of conflict and disconnection toward greater trust and closeness. Through mindful awareness, we slow down reactive patterns and learn to respond with greater presence and intention. Together, we explore the dynamics that keep you stuck, practice speaking your heart’s truth with clarity and compassion, and build a foundation where both partners feel heard, valued, and safe. By deepening emotional and physical intimacy, you can create a relationship rooted in authenticity, understanding, and love.
5 Truths About Couples Work
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Your ability to hold your own shame with compassion directly shapes your capacity for love and goodness in your relationship.
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Our human instinct to personalize everything can keep us from truly knowing our partners. Softening your defenses allows you to listen with clarity—this means learning not to take everything as a personal attack.
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Conflict is not the enemy; indifference is. Conflict shows that you care, that you long to be seen and understood by your partner.
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Love alone is not enough. The strength of a relationship depends on many factors, but shared values and integrity are the foundation.
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Couples therapy isn’t about staying together at all costs—it’s about learning to speak your truth, communicate with compassion, and understand who you are in relationships and who you want to become. Sometimes, growth means staying. Sometimes, it means letting go.
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“Conflict is the spirit of the relationship asking itself to deepen”
- Malidoma Some
